As
I understand it, serious minded TGirls like to present as a woman as far as
possible but recently I've begun to think again about what that actually
means. Is it to do with the clothes? I
have more skirts and dresses than most women and I bet my undies are prettier
than many girls wear. Is it about
adopting feminine mannerisms and poses?
Over the years, I've certainly worked on my walk, gestures and
nuances. Is it about what interest
us? I have a number of interests that
are traditionally much more associated with women than men. Is it about how we empathise and relate to
others? Now, that's an interesting one
because it is deeper than any of the aforementioned and its existence is
ultimately affirmed not by anything we do but by how others, especially women,
relate to us. It’s when we have that
sudden sense of awareness that a female friend is talking to us as she would to
another woman rather than a man. Years
of wearing the clothes, walking the walk and absorbing women's vocabulary,
interests and tastes undoubtedly are very important in that process but perhaps
it is even more dependent on the consideration that the starting point is our
innate (female/feminine) personality that we learn to free.
